SINGLENESS
+ I’ve been single for a while now! I hated it for a reallllly long time. But over the course of my singleness I’ve learned so much about myself and God. It’s definitely haven’t been an easy journey.
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I felt like I was choosing the wrong ppl. And was pointing my finger to everyone but myself. I came to realize I was the common dominator. So after my last relationship I called it quits. As my grandma would say “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH” Lmaooo.
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I decided to mainly focus on building my relationship with God. Get my God life together. Ha this statement sounded so simple but no where near as simple as I thought. Coming from a stubborn, prideful, and controlling background, I truly fought God for a while, I mean a while!!! Lmaooo
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Of course I was the only one in battle. God often just let me have my adult tantrum by myself 😭😒🙄. Then push the journey along.
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I once told God I wanna get married and can he find me a husband? That wasn’t a problem on His behalf. Until the question can back like are you wife? Bruhhhhh this set my whole journey upside down!
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I was over it. Becoming a wife before even stepping a foot into a marriage is the most nerve racking but worthy process. Someone once’s told me “ Whitney whatever your during in your life now will affect you in your marriage rather good or bad” .... Sheesh I felt that in my whole soul Lmaoo. Because I had a mindset of oooh when I’m married I’ma start working out or ima start cooking or ima do more self care. Who was I fouling I was hardly doing those things while being single. 😩
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Even tho this singleness journey hasn’t been easy I spent a HUGE amount of time alone and feeling lonely. Spent many nights crying and obsessing over the idea of being with someone. Thru the mist of it all I truly found WHITNEY. Not the made up Whitney. Or the CEO Whitney! But the Whitney who enjoys the smaller things life, like laughing, dancing, and smiling.
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I’m finally in stage where singleness isn’t sooo bad. I’ve shedded my insecurities, my low self esteem, my anger, my anxiety in the process. I can finally see the beauty of it all!❤️ #singleness
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I felt like I was choosing the wrong ppl. And was pointing my finger to everyone but myself. I came to realize I was the common dominator. So after my last relationship I called it quits. As my grandma would say “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH” Lmaooo.
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I decided to mainly focus on building my relationship with God. Get my God life together. Ha this statement sounded so simple but no where near as simple as I thought. Coming from a stubborn, prideful, and controlling background, I truly fought God for a while, I mean a while!!! Lmaooo
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Of course I was the only one in battle. God often just let me have my adult tantrum by myself 😭😒🙄. Then push the journey along.
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I once told God I wanna get married and can he find me a husband? That wasn’t a problem on His behalf. Until the question can back like are you wife? Bruhhhhh this set my whole journey upside down!
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I was over it. Becoming a wife before even stepping a foot into a marriage is the most nerve racking but worthy process. Someone once’s told me “ Whitney whatever your during in your life now will affect you in your marriage rather good or bad” .... Sheesh I felt that in my whole soul Lmaoo. Because I had a mindset of oooh when I’m married I’ma start working out or ima start cooking or ima do more self care. Who was I fouling I was hardly doing those things while being single. 😩
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Even tho this singleness journey hasn’t been easy I spent a HUGE amount of time alone and feeling lonely. Spent many nights crying and obsessing over the idea of being with someone. Thru the mist of it all I truly found WHITNEY. Not the made up Whitney. Or the CEO Whitney! But the Whitney who enjoys the smaller things life, like laughing, dancing, and smiling.
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I’m finally in stage where singleness isn’t sooo bad. I’ve shedded my insecurities, my low self esteem, my anger, my anxiety in the process. I can finally see the beauty of it all!❤️ #singleness
DATING MYSELF
+ Very so often I take myself on dates, to see how far I’ve grown in this self love journey.
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Now when I started this dating myself journey I HATED IT!! Let me say that again I HATED IT! 🗣🗣🗣Lmaoo
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Here’s why I hated it! Because I felt lonely. I thought everyone around me was like look at this lonely girl by herself. She ain’t got no friends or family?! __
These were complete lies I told myself. Cause chileeee nobody wasn’t even thinking about me. They out here tryna bust down they food 😭😭😭
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Fast forward today I walked up in this restaurant with confidence! No shame in my game. Like ummm what’s on the menu. Lmaoo
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This self love journey ain’t overnight! Every time I took myself on a date. I paid attention to the emotions evoked inside me. In most cause I felt lonely.
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The reality is that I may have been alone but lonely. Lonely is to say you have no one ever! Alone is to say I’m by myself at the moment aka solo. Two different outlooks.
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The moment I started viewing them differently I became more content with this journey! ❤️❤️❤️
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TAKE YOURSELF ON DATES! GET TO KNOW YOU MORE!
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Now when I started this dating myself journey I HATED IT!! Let me say that again I HATED IT! 🗣🗣🗣Lmaoo
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Here’s why I hated it! Because I felt lonely. I thought everyone around me was like look at this lonely girl by herself. She ain’t got no friends or family?! __
These were complete lies I told myself. Cause chileeee nobody wasn’t even thinking about me. They out here tryna bust down they food 😭😭😭
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Fast forward today I walked up in this restaurant with confidence! No shame in my game. Like ummm what’s on the menu. Lmaoo
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This self love journey ain’t overnight! Every time I took myself on a date. I paid attention to the emotions evoked inside me. In most cause I felt lonely.
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The reality is that I may have been alone but lonely. Lonely is to say you have no one ever! Alone is to say I’m by myself at the moment aka solo. Two different outlooks.
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The moment I started viewing them differently I became more content with this journey! ❤️❤️❤️
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TAKE YOURSELF ON DATES! GET TO KNOW YOU MORE!
NEXT CHAPTER
+ What is it going to take for you to move on the next chapter? Are you waiting for the last page of the old chapter to be perfected? Have you reread the same paragraph over and over?
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You’ve crossed every T and dotted every I it’s definitely time to move on honey 💅🏾. Stop stalking your Ex page. Yes I said stop stalking you ex page Lmaoo. That chapter is done, completed and no need to keep revisiting it. If your constantly checking and still get that tug , that urge , that yearning to “ See what they’re up to”. You got some soul healing to do.
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Here’s what I recommend you do start writing a NEW chapter called heal thy self. Lol Write out all your hurt, all your anger. Write every time you go checking for them. Do some reflections on what’s going on around you every time you go checking for them. Some ppl say write it out and burn it. Chileeeee no I need you to keep that writing visible so every time you try to revisit that chapter I need you to go back to the new chapter to realize why you closed that chapter in the first place.
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I’m with y’all in this I went through a deep cleansing season where I had to reallllly heal thy self. It ain’t easy but trust and believe that new chapter is worth the writing. Not only for you but others who’ve going through it and have no blueprint. Guess what your blueprint will heal others too!
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NEXT CHAPTER PLEASE 💅🏾.
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You’ve crossed every T and dotted every I it’s definitely time to move on honey 💅🏾. Stop stalking your Ex page. Yes I said stop stalking you ex page Lmaoo. That chapter is done, completed and no need to keep revisiting it. If your constantly checking and still get that tug , that urge , that yearning to “ See what they’re up to”. You got some soul healing to do.
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Here’s what I recommend you do start writing a NEW chapter called heal thy self. Lol Write out all your hurt, all your anger. Write every time you go checking for them. Do some reflections on what’s going on around you every time you go checking for them. Some ppl say write it out and burn it. Chileeeee no I need you to keep that writing visible so every time you try to revisit that chapter I need you to go back to the new chapter to realize why you closed that chapter in the first place.
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I’m with y’all in this I went through a deep cleansing season where I had to reallllly heal thy self. It ain’t easy but trust and believe that new chapter is worth the writing. Not only for you but others who’ve going through it and have no blueprint. Guess what your blueprint will heal others too!
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NEXT CHAPTER PLEASE 💅🏾.
NOTE TO SELF
+ Ooo myyyy the wait! 😩😩😩 The purpose of the wait is to get a better understanding of who you are. The purpose of the wait is for you make better choices. The purpose is for you to know what your truly DESERVE!⠀
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By all means you can settle for that good look person. But does that person fuel your soul? Does that person make you wanna do better in life?! Does that person make you look deeper within?⠀
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The wait helps you to understand how powerful and wonderful you are. The waits helps you eliminate dumb decisions. The wait shows you how VALUABLE you are. ⠀
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The wait seems like an endless road while being single. But chileee let me ask you this Have you wrote the book you said you was gonna do? Have you started the business? Have you healed the past wounds? Have you been getting to the gym?⠀
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Singleness is a real thing but just know their are soooo many things you can focus on in the meantime! Start working on yourself. Get you together. So when that person you truly prayed for comes along, your grounded and rooted in self love. #notetoself⠀
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By all means you can settle for that good look person. But does that person fuel your soul? Does that person make you wanna do better in life?! Does that person make you look deeper within?⠀
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The wait helps you to understand how powerful and wonderful you are. The waits helps you eliminate dumb decisions. The wait shows you how VALUABLE you are. ⠀
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The wait seems like an endless road while being single. But chileee let me ask you this Have you wrote the book you said you was gonna do? Have you started the business? Have you healed the past wounds? Have you been getting to the gym?⠀
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Singleness is a real thing but just know their are soooo many things you can focus on in the meantime! Start working on yourself. Get you together. So when that person you truly prayed for comes along, your grounded and rooted in self love. #notetoself⠀
FUTURE HUSBAND
+ At some point in my life I use to have a mindset that the person I’m dating had to have all these materials things because I truly didn’t know who I was and what I needed. ⠀
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As I did my soul searching and truly got to know Whitney. My perspective of my future husband changed. My sis @chouserenco once asked me if all the material things are stripped away what qualities does this person bring to table?! 🤔🤔I was like ok trueeeee lmaooo ⠀
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Now look for long lasting qualities. Cause when my husband and I are old and wrinkle I know that their are some quality I can love of forever Lmaoo
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As I did my soul searching and truly got to know Whitney. My perspective of my future husband changed. My sis @chouserenco once asked me if all the material things are stripped away what qualities does this person bring to table?! 🤔🤔I was like ok trueeeee lmaooo ⠀
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Now look for long lasting qualities. Cause when my husband and I are old and wrinkle I know that their are some quality I can love of forever Lmaoo